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Quit my job and Unable to stay home as a house-wife

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nidhimomm 2016-10-18 15:03:21

 

Hi, I used to work as a software engineer but quit my beautiful job to take care of my 2 boys 5 years ago. Initially for 2 years I was busy with the kids but then the ITCH started that I should NOT have quit my job. I should have some how managed my work and home. I made a mistake. Since then every day I sit before the computer from morning to evening looking at what kinda jobs are available for my profile and where are the people and how big the people who were inferior to me or who were reporting to me have grown. Why is it that only ladies have to quit their jobs. I am always restless and unhappy and grumbling and jealous person now. Its like I have turned into a black spider-man :(
 I want to upgrade my skills and go back. But I feel no company will take me. I started freelancing to wipe off the HOUSE-WIFE tag, but earn peanuts.
Unable to mingle with the ladies who are house wives from the beginning and unable to get good friends.
I think I am making my husband and kids' life miserable too.
I think I need a psychiatric help. But, don't have guts to admit my mental condition to anyone.
People think I am happy lady who easily adjusted to the home-maker position too. Happy go lucky lady.
What is happening to me?


nidhimomm 2016-11-04 23:40:28

 

No solution?
 

 Former member 2016-11-16 12:15:22

 

1st thing to do: Yoga and meditation. you will be alright. you don't need psychiatric help. 
 

savitha 2016-12-19 13:40:50

 

do not feel guilt. This guilt kill women. When u are at office you have the guilt of not managing home and when u are at home you have the guilt of not doing your work well. Have no guilt. Take a deep breath. Choose a career that would help you stick to your preferences.
We all struggle to have a perfect family and career. We dont find a balance. Today we have a wide variety of career choices. you can choose for a job that help you concentrate on your family.
 

anagha04 2017-03-18 16:58:25

 

Hi Nidhi ,
 I read your problem .Same thing has happened to me . I quit my job to look after my daughter because no one is ready to take responsibility at home and neither ready to keep a nany to look after her. That time we r under financial problems also and I was earning for my house  . I was satisfied because i thought I can support my husband financially. But one day situation changed and I had to quit the job. My husband could not do anything even he understand my mental condition. I decided to look after my daughter and now I got involved in her .She is now 4 yrs. I am happy with her and positively decided only to take of her. I dont need any other person to help me in this .I am a capable mother who can easily take care of her in her sickness, can help her in studies her extra activities .I spend lots of time with her and trying to develop her. Please dont go under depression .There are lots of thing to do for children .side by side you can search work from home option for earning extra money. It will help you to earn also .( I am earning some money by doing work from home). Cheer up and live for your children they need your support. All the best.
 

param27 2017-05-14 12:33:02

 

Nidhi..please dont think so much..just give sometime to urself and recollect all wht u hv done and wt u have...definately it will work,..rest keep in touch...i have heard many mothers resart their carree as software engg .it not a big issue just start where u left and in some days u will again get wt u want....keep in touch
 

param27 2017-05-14 12:34:48

 

agdha also help frnds to get ome work from home options..thanks
 

shailu1235 2017-05-29 10:57:56

 

The best thing for married woman with kids if they have option ...is to stay at home and happily take care of their kids as KIDS need us so much at all stages. My heart squeeze when my darling daughter ask me 'Please stay with me mom ' when iam leaving to office when she is having holiday at school. It is so hard to leave her and go to work... Please give time for kids...my daughter sings so good ...but I get rarely time to take her to music classes which are only on weekends and on weekends we go out....

My suggestion is u do raise your kid by joining them in all classes and enjoy their success...it will make u feel so good

 

Shubha82 2017-06-04 09:40:05

 

There are a few organizations who help women who are returning from Maternity break - https://www.jobsforher.comhttp://www.avtariwin.com, http://www.SHEROES.in, http://hersecondinnings.com and http://www.tatasecondcareer.com/

I haven't tried any of the above sites. But read about these recently.. so thought of sharing.
Hope it is of some help! Good Luck!
 

Rama123 2017-06-16 12:07:13

 

I also quit my 12+ years job to take care of my son. It's a blessing to be with kids and be part of their lives at all time. Learn to live the life and don't compare with others and stop over thinking, since it kills us from inside. Enjoy life with your kids and you can do yoga or meditation for your soul happiness.
 

param27 2017-06-16 14:25:11

 

Thats gud rama g...thnks.hope group members motivated
 

ItsMeDipti 2017-06-16 23:11:32

 

What kind of work you do from home ? Please share the website from where you get work
 

 

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