Hi, I used to work as a software engineer but quit my beautiful job to
take care of my 2 boys 5 years ago. Initially for 2 years I was busy
with the kids but then the ITCH started that I should NOT have quit my
job. I should have some how managed my work and home. I made a mistake.
Since then every day I sit before the computer from morning to evening
looking at what kinda jobs are available for my profile and where are
the people and how big the people who were inferior to me or who were
reporting to me have grown. Why is it that only ladies have to quit
their jobs. I am always restless and unhappy and grumbling and jealous
person now. Its like I have turned into a black spider-man :(
I want to upgrade my skills and go back. But I feel no company will take me. I started freelancing to wipe off the HOUSE-WIFE tag, but earn peanuts.
Unable to mingle with the ladies who are house wives from the beginning and unable to get good friends.
I think I am making my husband and kids' life miserable too.
I think I need a psychiatric help. But, don't have guts to admit my mental condition to anyone.
People think I am happy lady who easily adjusted to the home-maker position too. Happy go lucky lady.
What is happening to me?
1st thing to do: Yoga and meditation. you will be alright. you don't need psychiatric help.
do not feel guilt. This guilt kill women. When u are at office you have the guilt of not managing home and when u are at home you have the guilt of not doing your work well. Have no guilt. Take a deep breath. Choose a career that would help you stick to your preferences.
We all struggle to have a perfect family and career. We dont find a balance. Today we have a wide variety of career choices. you can choose for a job that help you concentrate on your family.
Hi Nidhi ,
I read your problem .Same thing has happened to me . I quit my job to look after my daughter because no one is ready to take responsibility at home and neither ready to keep a nany to look after her. That time we r under financial problems also and I was earning for my house . I was satisfied because i thought I can support my husband financially. But one day situation changed and I had to quit the job. My husband could not do anything even he understand my mental condition. I decided to look after my daughter and now I got involved in her .She is now 4 yrs. I am happy with her and positively decided only to take of her. I dont need any other person to help me in this .I am a capable mother who can easily take care of her in her sickness, can help her in studies her extra activities .I spend lots of time with her and trying to develop her. Please dont go under depression .There are lots of thing to do for children .side by side you can search work from home option for earning extra money. It will help you to earn also .( I am earning some money by doing work from home). Cheer up and live for your children they need your support. All the best.
Nidhi..please dont think so much..just give sometime to urself and recollect all wht u hv done and wt u have...definately it will work,..rest keep in touch...i have heard many mothers resart their carree as software engg .it not a big issue just start where u left and in some days u will again get wt u want....keep in touch
agdha also help frnds to get ome work from home options..thanks
The best thing for married woman with kids if they have option ...is to stay at home and happily take care of their kids as KIDS need us so much at all stages. My heart squeeze when my darling daughter ask me 'Please stay with me mom ' when iam leaving to office when she is having holiday at school. It is so hard to leave her and go to work... Please give time for kids...my daughter sings so good ...but I get rarely time to take her to music classes which are only on weekends and on weekends we go out....
My suggestion is u do raise your kid by joining them in all classes and enjoy their success...it will make u feel so good
I also quit my 12+ years job to take care of my son. It's a blessing to be with kids and be part of their lives at all time. Learn to live the life and don't compare with others and stop over thinking, since it kills us from inside. Enjoy life with your kids and you can do yoga or meditation for your soul happiness.
Thats gud rama g...thnks.hope group members motivated
What kind of work you do from home ?
Please share the website from where you get work
hi how r u had lunch can u forward ur resume i will send ur resume to my friends who is in software field if any job is there as per ur experience they will call u send me ur resume to my email id firstname.lastname@example.org
Are u still searching for work? My company's running special campaign this women's day for women like u who took break and want to come back. Message me if u want to submit ur resume
Hiiee, Can you give me any lead in finding work from home??? I was on a break and am now looking forward for work from home options in non technical role as a fresher.
Can you elaborate more on what kind of non technical roles you are looking for. Just to get more idea,please give more info on education qualification and past work experience.
I completed M.Sc (Physics) in 2013 and post to that did B.ed . I worked as a post graduate teacher in kendriya vidyalaya for 1year. After that I was on break for family issues. Now thinking to restart. Not interested in education sector. Looking forward for something that can be done from home for the time being. As a fresher I think customer service role will be suitable or may be some other role if you can suggest. I don't have any technical degree . Really confused how to get things back to track . TIA
If this is not an immediate requirement, I would suggest to get certified as HR and start career in that direction(if that interests you). Though 100% work from home isn't possible, most firms are flexible these days. so, practically it might work out for you.
Personal suggestion: don't take too much pressure to re-start on the career. understand your interests and take your time.
Thank you for the useful suggestion. I will take your advice for consideration.