Stay back in India or come back to USA for my kid

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Sandy2215 2019-10-18 21:14:33


Hello Everyone,
I am also in same boat like most of you guys experiencing now. But if someone can provide your thoughts on my issue that will be helpful.
I am in little confusion whether to go back to India or stay back in USA.
My kid is 2 year 5 months old now and we were in California USA when our kid was born and did not see any major issue until he turned 1 year. He used to make good eye contact and used to involve in all activities. But due to my job change (H1B) I moved to Chicago and we kept our kid in Day Care when he was 1 year 4 months, after sending to Day Care we got complaints your kid is not reacting to his name. We are in impression that he is not interested to go and not react.(He plays with kids only limited games not all & make good eye contact & dont like to go with any new people) but after sending 2 months we got same issue from different day care then we realized there is some issue and need to be taken care of kid by US only & we are also impression since there is no one in Chicago for us the social activity is also zero level & my kid is not interested.As most of you know Chicago is one bad city from weather perspective and interaction with people will be very less. Then I have decided to send him to India so he can have good time and also will have social Interaction with many people and get adjusted.My wife and kid went to India when my kid had 20 months. Then later we decided to take him to Pediatrician and Child psychologist because he used to talk very less words when he was 20 months & always likes to run and go out and play outside and dont like to stay at home also. After getting evaluated psychologist from Rainbow confirmed there is chance of Trades in developmental delay but too early to say and suggested for OT, BT,Speech Therapies. We decided to send him to all 3 since Pinnacle in Hyderabad was near to US and used to send him everyday day. Days goes on we see some improvement from both Behavioral and OT and very less improvement in Speech but we were happy because he started saying single words and pointing things if he wants at least to my wife and her sister & brother. After 6 months therapy we decided to have check up with Kalyan Chakravarthy child psychologist who is good one in Hyderabad, India & by now my child is 2 yrs 5 months. After taking him Doctor diagnosed him and confirmed there are trades of Autism which is 20% and wanted to stay back for 7 months more and get treated in India & can be looked in after 7 months what to do next.

While coming back to my question, I am in USA now & planning to go back to India so I can take care of businesses which we have and spent some quality time with My family & based on current H1B Criteria for Consultants like us it very hard to stick for one place and need to change projects in USA, but wanted to know from you guys based on your experience will it be good decision based on current situation and thinking about my child career like (Therapy wise, Any ABA therapy and other variety ways in India when compared to USA) & also school for Kids in Hyderabad,India to any city in USA. I am also little tensed to bring him back because I am not sure how to reacts after coming to USA. 

Any of your inputs will be greatly appreciated.

Sreejesh 2021-11-01 04:17:01



Me too in same situation.
Please suggest if normal schools are taking kids with developmental delays in Hyderabad.

Need to decide to stay in USA or move to India.
Does environment in India change kids?

sri2005 2021-11-01 10:26:41


Hi Sreejesh,

I humbly request you to stay back in USA for the sake of your child. No second thoughts please. here there are no schools which take kids with developmental delays. though they say they take in, they don't nuture the kids later. First of all the staff wont be properly trained and understand the child psychology. 
In US they wont discriminate the law and fill the loops holes at the tender age only. I am mother of 15 year old ADHD son. i have struggled alot with the schools. Now he is at home only, i became his teacher. i followed his interests and started teaching bhagavadgita. u can watch his videos in instagram "prabhavmompriya".

I dont know how old are ur kids, but if u have an option to stay in US, happily stay back for the sake of your children. one of my close friend is in US and has special needs child. she openly said that though she wanted to come back to india she has stayed back just for her son. as he was receiving very good care and his needs are met. 

Have patience, see that your child is in safe hands. Definetly they will reach heights. All the best.
Prabhav mom

Sreejesh 2021-11-03 05:38:05


Thank you so much for replying! I hope u find peace! I am still in shock and depression with my son's ASD diagnosis. It scares me if I think about his future and the struggle on the path. I am very depressed and not able to concentrate on anything.

sri2005 2021-11-03 19:38:27


Hello Sreejesh,

 Yes , its a terrible thing for the parents to digest about the unpredictable health issues of children. But please make up your mind. There is a long run to go. First of all ACCEPTANCE is the key. Accept that your child has certain issues which has to be dealth with. If u panic u cant plan further. Initially i too was in the same boat. My husband is my pillar of strength. I dont know how old is your child . Early intervention is the cure. Plan a routine for every single day. if you all (the one who stays at home) follow a systematic routine/schedule definetly u notice remarkable changes in ur kid. Mark my words plz. i am sure u will overcome the problem, only only if u implement a structured routine. In US every school provides a special educator and they follow Individual Educational Plan (IEP). in the week ends take him to park to socialize. Remember miracles do happen, but not in an over night. Have patience. Identify the child interests and go accordingly. if suppose he is interested in swimming , take him to the classes. i have seen an autistic kid who used to swim  exceptionally. (but his talent was not brought to light). Like that definetly your child will also have certain interests, which could be unique. 
Stay strong. Dont feel low. God gives hardest battles to strong soldiers. 
Take care


Sreejesh 2021-11-05 18:31:40


Hi Prabhavmom,

Thanks for ur reply! I am in depression and not able to digest this. My son is 4 and half yars old.. We didnt realize Autism could be the reason.. We thiught hr is speech delayed but he says words, and being stubborn, never got a doubt that its Autism. Now feeling guilty. Very confused and tensed. Scared of future. Ÿ˜Ÿ˜


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