House working Single Mom.

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dreamer27 2017-01-19 10:58:40

 

Hi ,
I got married in very early age. I am a single mother with 6 years only daughter for past 6 years. As soon as my kid was born , got a heavy confusion and problem (which I dont want to discuss) then when she was 3 months I left her with my mom and went for college. Then stayed in hostel chennai and worked for 2 years. Past six months I got work from option from the company so I took my daughter with me. Every thing seems okay now. But most of the time I feel stressed of being alone at home. 
Suggest me how to get over this stress? Is remarriage will works really? My family is always ready to get me second me second life, but I am scared and confused. 


Prakriti9 2017-01-20 16:03:07

 

Remarriage is a big decision. Please take as pros and cons into account before getting into it. What about your daughter? at this age , she will definitely need her mother's love and attention, esp. when it is only you. Ofcourse, grandparents are there and how much ever loving, caring they are, after a certain time, kids want their parents. If you remarry, you have to be sure that your spouse accepts her. Will the child be ok sharing her mother's attention and that too with a complete stranger, atleast for her? Tomorrow, you do not want to be torn between your hubby and your daughter. Although it is very very difficult emotionally, financially and socially to lead a single mother's life and especially when you are so young, please think not once , twice but many many times. To escape from one do not jump into another world of misery. If would be hubby initially says ok and later does not accept your daughter completely or you have another child with him going forward, what happens to this child. Do not want to discourage you from this, but please think  more from the child's angle , she did not choose to be in this situation. As it is the pressure on her in society for explaining not having a father would be much, do not subject her to more. and while taking decisions, do not rely on parent's presence. Consider the fact that they are also aging. All the same, if you get a life partner who is supportive from all aspects, I really pray for you, then think wisely and take a decision. Promises are made in love and for the sake of initial desires, however all that fades over a period of time and history should not repeat itself. Just an advice from a much much older sister
 

 Former member 2017-07-04 00:57:47

 

Dreamer,
How are you.

what did you decide.. ?

First become stable, independent.. think about this will cool mind,  emotionally do not decide anything.. its dangerous.

thanks
 

dreamer27 2017-07-04 13:14:52

 

Thanks Duffer,

Still I didn't decided yet. Now concentrating on my career. If it meant to be happen it will happen at the right time like a magic . So Believe and move on is my slogan :D.
 


 Former member 2017-07-04 14:50:56

 

Dreamer ..

" If it meant to be happen it will happen at the right time like a magic ."   Exactly..  !

I also took similar approach..  but also I try to make friends.. rather looking for so called "soul mate or partner"  I feel its better to be with friends rather.. !

cause relationships come with *conditions apply and lot of expectations. !

:)


 

Mahiiiiiii100 2018-01-03 14:11:50

 

Hi, how are you doing??
 

 Former member 2018-01-28 11:40:38

 

Hello @Mahiiiiiii100 , 
People Move on..  , 
I am doing good and stable.. :) 
@dreamer27 , How are you
 

Nav48 2018-05-08 10:07:20

 

Hi..life is like walking on a rope.be postive always and if your family insist you fro second marriage and if you are interested in it then go for it.think better you select a person and discuss about your kid future your interst your likes and dislikes.
 


ashoktel 2018-05-14 13:51:15

 

If you remarry you might end up with more problems. I would suggest you to rethink on this part and live independently and take care of your kid.
 

9677264248 2018-06-27 15:31:43

 

Hi think once again to land into problem since u have kid and now the trend is the man who comes as second will care u and not the child. Think twice. and discuss with u r close friends and decide

Ram 43 from chennai

 

 

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