its brilliant to know you. i have accepted your request
Lets play a SWOT Test to analyze this issue
a) you know your wife
b) you know the triggers
c) you know the background
d) you know the motivations that would drive the marriage or break it again
a) because you are hurt in past - you wont let go of the hurt (which you should)
b) you may use the past against her
c) just as you know your wife with her weaknesses - she knows you too
a) you (i assume) must be in mid 40s - which makes you extremely vulnerable - its really sad to be lonely, and you may seek company
its better to be connected to someone you know - rather than have a new partner who will have adjustment issues with your son & so will your son.
b) you may use this opportunity to correct what may have gone wrong , to start with - be friends with her (if not marry)
c) use this opportunity to be closer to her & the son,,, you were a unit once. if your son is close to her emotionally - he is only going to thank you
d) there are lesser chances of getting hurt , be respectful - but not an emotional fool. use this opportunity to start over again. i think its worth the shot.
a) wife may misuse this opportunity to cheat again (if she is a compulsive cheater)
b) wife may take charge of life that you were leading
now weighing the pros and cons - i think the pros are outweighing the cons.
i think - time is the biggest healer.
understand & try to find out how she spent these last 7 years
time transforms, age brings in calmness & maturity.
you dont have to push the marriage down each others throats.
i think just start with meeting her alone.... just teh two of you. find out if things (she) has changed.
go for a drink.
involve her & son in little things that you three would do - just the three of you.
marriage & companionship are two dramatically different things
two married people need not be companions & two companions need not be married
try to strike that balance.
and be sincere - dont be serious abt anything
and my last but definitely not the least of advice for you would be
if you are starting you have to wipe out the past. only if you have the courage to do it - go ahead . else you will keep bringing the past & use it against her . dont do that .
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