Have gathered all my courage to write what I feel. I have seen if the wife is sad or unhappy any time, the husband does not bother to ask or even talk to her to know the reason. Does this happen to any of you here? Also they would not talk to each other for few days. Finally the wife is the one to compromise in any situation since she is worried about the kids. Feel dejected and sad and really do not know how to handle this. Being a working lady I have been busy and the week ends are tough. Sometimes I worry the weekend is here.
Come on chill... I hope many of the working women experience this.... Also think of a home maker she does not have any deviation... As u rightly pointed out its better to think of kids.... Read books, go for a walk have time for urself ... before wedding u must have ur own world think of it and pursue ... else life wuld be miserable. Ur stress may even bring you down... have no expectation... Its easy to say tough to follow... but its better if we follow ....never Argue or fight remain calm silence is the best weapon
I wish you should have happy life ahead :)
Thanks for your wishes and giving your support. Yes, I am trying to be calm and revolving around home, kids, work etc. Infact we both have been busy. But there are times when I need to say it out or nothing is conveyed or understood.I am sure a home maker also may be going through similar situations. I feel if one needs deviation means sometimes running away from the situation. Only best way is pray to god, keep busy and as you rightly said silence is the best weapon. Best wishes to you.
Thanks for ur reply.... If u really want to talk to ur hubby thats also a wise go and speak u r stressed and u r missing him... Again do not fight or argue ... if he replies listen fully and then talk ... go towards soultion... I have achieved it that way :) Dnt wry ur hubby ll love u too .. .expressing it is bigger prblm for men ... only cinema heroes can do it ;)
Nice to see your reply. I am trying to be calm and expressing my views at times. I smiled when I read, only cinema heroes can do it. Hmm! May be true most of the cases. Improving my listening skills and talk only if required. Wish things would be easier and could understand each other better. Just pray for good. Best wishes to you.
Feeling content when this little sentence can bring a smile on ur face :) Hope things are better on ur side .... U must be passionate or interested about something before wedding .... for me its books .... and i learn keyboard now... So immerse in different world.... Have a healthy life .. Do not spend the whole day in cooking , cleaning and work... Take an hour ..... Dress up go for a walk....:) Pls try to forget ur hubby for an hour and think about you alone :) Things will change for sure .... Its important that u do wat u like in a day at least for 20mins and u can be selfish for 20% of ur lifetime after wedding..... 80% u can sacrifice since u hav kid ..... If u r a book lover too pick a book called House of cards by sudha murthy... U will love it if u r bookworm
I have not forgotten to smile. Just do not want a phase where one is not understood. I keep myself very busy other than the daily work I go for walk, enjoy dancing. Recently I was reading out bed times stories to my younger one by Sudha Murthy. I love the way she writes, simple and nice. Will try to get the one u suggested. Just finished reading Power of positive thinking.
Oh Wow... :) I read all the stories of Sudha Murthy,... Very good writer .... The book costs around 150... U can try all her series of novels
following are the ones ..
House of cards
The Mother I never Knew
Above all these I would suggest "Bakula" Typical story like urs and mine :) ... Do not think should I read the same story in book... But it will be consoling for U as it did for me
Thanks ishwaryaa. I will definitely get these books. And of course the one you suggested "Bakula". Yes, she is a good writer. Waiting to get these soon. Hope I will get them at crosswords.
Its really nice, to know you are so concerned and have been writing to me. Do keep writing.
Sure... Nice to talking to u too..... I am a working women and have a kid of 4 yrs old... So can understand ur feelings....
Yes, so you may be busy too, with work and family. so that's the picture you put, very cute and cuddly.
Hi All, I also went through the same stage for 4.5 years . My Husb would spend hours & hours chatting with his Mom & used to plan on how to keep me under their feet . they made my life miserable during pregnancy . Finally , last March I walked out with my 3 month old baby & then filed for divorce. We get only 1 life, Why to waste it on crappy people like them
Its really upsetting and frustrating to know the final resort. May you get the strength to tackle and live life happily.
every family goes thro this
but the way to tackle the problems are different
there is a threshold point for every conflict
if one can find the point then there is no conflict
I am a father and this issue comes very often, try understand your husband and make him understand what you are going thru. he must understand your emotion to run a good family. Check out his weak and strong points and act according to it. Might take some time but sure the fuits will be sweet.
Nice to know that I am still receiving replies on this. Yes I am trying to understand and same time I am expecting that from him. But like you said takes time and patience. Sometimes its difficult to know what would work better.
yup true... no ego and always talk it out. never keep things within yourself and never assume.. thing will work out for sure..
my best wishes to you
U r right ishwarya pa silence is the best weapon.
Hi aman007, I am from Mumbai.
Acha ur profile says u from hyderabad. So hws lyf? Hws everythng going on ?
yeah, when I started writing on this forum I was in Hyderabad. Life is ok.Going on. How about you?
Ok. Yeah, my life ha..., jus going on nthg spcl
how are things with you ?
i hope things go fine with you and you feel happy all my good wishes with you
Hi asker, thanks for your wishes. I am sailing fine for now. Just praying and maintaining my patience level.
hi ishwaryaa it is nice to know that you too have a passion for reading.
some time ti happen to everyone u need to just wait for correect time and ask ur hubby to go out and make hime understnd with ur feelings
Hi Param, I am surprised somebody activated this topic again. I am doing fine. Keep myself busy with work, reading, kids. We do go out with family etc. Just watched star wars with family. I keep praying and hope for the best.
thsts really nice to hear this from u...god always with u..just keep finger cross..