i want ur help

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Anuradha11 2014-02-15 23:33:09

 

recently my parents have seen a match to me. His height is 5 2" mine is also same.. Both of us are employees and of lower middle class. my parents are compelling me to marry him as both of us are government employees, he works in central govt and I am into state government. Every thing matched except his height which is crating problem to me. Does looks really matter in a relationship. I am vexed up. Even that person is also interested. No body is listening to me.

Anuradha11 2014-02-16 12:55:20

 

they are not seeing other matches to me
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-16 13:40:07

 

Help me my parents are worried abt me as they believe this is the best match
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-16 13:42:29

 

I was worried abt them and said yes But i am not able to come out of height thought. I am always thinking abt his height
 


Anuradha11 2014-02-16 17:17:01

 

Even i am worried abt my parents
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-17 21:55:53

 

Anybody pls reply
 

sathyasatheesh 2014-02-17 22:46:28

 

Heights don't matters, don't worry. If his attitude and family OK then you can proceed.
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-18 00:48:04

 

Thank u satyasheel but wen i see him individually he looks short, his family is good and he has good job his attitude is also fine.how to get out of this height problem help me
 


Rubu 2014-02-18 15:09:43

 



Dear Anu,

Height really doesn't matter. I have seen tall girls marrying husbands who are shorter than them.

And as you are getting fixated about height, trust me tall men want really tall women and are not willing to consider 5ft 2inch.Imagine how would you feel if you are being rejected for your height by another party. Moreover, here you already said yes to your parents and his family. Time to keep your work. your parents want good for you.

 There is nothing like perfect match, rather it is like learning to love a person whom you have found. 

If the family is good then please go ahead. Also you mention he is a central govt employee while you are state Govt. There is a lot more here for you in terms of your future. Your parents are right. 

Rubu
 

sathyasatheesh 2014-02-18 15:52:53

 

You are right Rubu. If he and his family is loving person then no need to look in to other stuffs.

Also, to answer to your question. Throw away the word height from your mind, talk to him and understand him and give room to understand you.

All the best for your next level of life.




 

Anuradha11 2014-02-18 20:41:09

 

Thank you rubu and satyasatheesh Please i should take out that height and feeling that he is short. Trying a lot for the same.
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-18 20:51:46

 

rubu until engagement is done its not completely fixed.only general talks started.
 

KALPAN 2014-02-19 09:58:52

 

Hi Anuradha11
Height really doesn't matter!!!!!
It is the nature of the person, how settled he is,how caring he is --- all this should be your priorities and most important his family. The family plays an important role after marriage.  If he and his family is understanding, caring, will give you freedom in your life, height should not bother you.  And as such he is not shorter than you!!! he is just the same height. Only thing you cannot wear high heels after marriag, that's all.  Just finding a person who is taller than you and not having good job, not settled, having family which will be nuisance to you future is surely not the great deal.
Go ahead with positive mind and you yourself will find out all the positive things in him to be looked into than the height
 

Jesh 2014-02-19 11:37:20

 

forget abt the looks and height. if he is good in heart and if he loves you, go ahead... dont fall on the looks and beauty or height.. if u like him go ahead..... 
 

Rubu 2014-02-19 12:11:24

 

Anu,

this Forum is full of wise women who are unbiased and most are married and have seen life.

And all seem to echo same thing, height doessn't matter. Honestly 10 years into married life and I can tell you with conviction that what really matters are people who are good at heart, and with positive attitude.

And if you want to carry negativity with you then please tell no first to your parents and they would handle on your behalf. Cause this guy being a central govt employee will easily get another good girl. It's very easy for a man to get an outstanding proposal. This is harsh reality. Bite into that first. In this scenario your parents would feel drained that all efforts they put into convincing one family is all waste. Do not expect them to be enthusiastic about another proposal same way unless it is extraordinarily better than this one.

You can yourself search in online matrimonial forums and present something better than this for your parents to chase. Also I suggest you do not put your real name and pics unless you dont want people to know that you are still searching while one proposal is near to conclusion. Think about all pros and cons.

Kind Regards,
Rubu
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-19 19:22:23

 

Thank you satya satheesh,rubu,jesh, kalpan for ur valuable suggestions
 

Jesh 2014-02-19 20:45:44

 

All the best Anu!! go ahead!! getting good guys nowadays is very difficult. so dont go with looks or wht ever. go only with heart and good care taker.. ur life will be happy... my exp.. :) 
 

Rubu 2014-02-20 12:49:51

 



Forgive me Anu, if I sounded harsh. I wish you only the best. It's very difficult to get good men as husbands. And you need to trust your parents instinct. They are the only ones who would be there for you irrespective of whether you fail or have success in life.

Rubu
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-20 17:44:01

 

Hey nothing like that rubu u r thinking gud abt me, not only u every body is saying the same thing.but frankly speaking i dont know abt his character completely. Since few months we know him and his family.they are from lower middle class. They were not having own house. He has taken loan for which monthly emi is 20000 for twenty years. He has one younger brother he is studying btech and younger sis got married. they are also from village culture like us.
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-20 17:52:55

 

My parents are not educated like his parents. The loan has to be repaid from his salary. he has taken house in city outskirt. It will take 1 and half hour to reach their from my office. I am not scared abt all these things.
 


Anuradha11 2014-02-20 18:11:07

 

Hey nothing like that rubu u r thinking gud abt me, not only u every body is saying the same thing.but frankly speaking i dont know abt his character completely. Since few months we know him and his family.they are from lower middle class. They were not having own house. He has taken loan for which monthly emi is 20000 for twenty years. He has one younger brother he is studying btech and younger sis got married. they are also from village culture like us.
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-20 21:28:46

 

Rubu, satyasateesh, jesh, kalpan thank you for u r replies, nobody will care for others. But u people don't even know me , but gave me gud suggestions. especially u rubu thanks a lot.
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-20 21:53:32

 

Lets b friends all of us
 

Anuradha11 2014-02-20 23:08:04

 

He himself worked very hard as thier parents are not educated they were not in a position to provide him education, after Xth by doing part time job he helped his parents and he only prvided money to his sister marriage and taken house on loan as he is having central govt job.
 

taniaahmed 2014-03-20 14:53:27

 

I don't think it is big problem. When you are going to marry you should consider about few facts. If he is good looking and handsome than don't think again. You should marry him.
 

Dev2014 2014-04-30 16:05:36

 

Talk to him and you will know the compatibility. Height should not be a issue if he is genuine person. Be happy.
 

pinky03 2014-06-22 22:40:14

 

Decision will u be u r s, but it has to fast things to be forwards,or else its never ending story
 

Rubu 2014-07-01 14:17:41

 

Anu is hopefully happily married. She has married the same person
 

Kishoreto 2014-12-11 14:25:06

 

anu r u got married happily????
 

 

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