This was a question which my 6 year old asked me which made me stop and think over it in today's times...
what should be the answer if your kid asks you this question?? it is very true that all of us cannot always speak true...
Any suggestions are welcome!!
No. If you allow for few times, it will end up at more times, if you say No, then it will end at few times.
no one can speak the truth everytime with everyone..while adults lie sensibly, when and where required, its not a good idea to do this in front of kids. kids learn to lie without having the capacity to judge when and where. they start telling lies with an understanding that there is nothing wrong in this.
its not good to tell them that its ok to lie here and there. they will eventually learn to use white lies and diplomatic lies as adults later, but let that come from experiences with the outside world. in childhood they should know that its never ok to lie.
Kids take whatever we tell them as the absolute truth. While all of us want to protect our children from the realities of life it is not good to lie to them. It is always better to explain the issue to them with examples, sometimes substituting the issue at hand with something that they able to understand. This way we develope a sense of understanding in the child and also give them a context to think in, rather than developing myths and tinkering with their information system.
Thanks all for your reply. I understand that we should not be lieing with kids or in front of kids.....but my question is about telling the kids that is it ok if someone else ...say his friend lie to him sometime....is it ok if his friend lies to him....
the whole story started when my son was told by his friend that its ok to lie sometimes and elders also lie sometimes....now this innocent son came to me asking is it ok to lie sometimes??
I think, I shall tell him that... no its not good to lie but yes sometimes we lie for good reasons....giving him some examples....and there is not a single person who speaks the truth all the time... :-)))
I faced the same problem with my 6 yr old. i had to tell him about the consequences of telling lies and that it is bad. But i also introduced to him the new concept of white lies and few situations where it can be used. For example with strangers, kidnappers etc for his own safety. I also told him that he would understand better as he grows up. He was satisfied.
Thanks Annette...this is useful... :-)
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