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RAJEEV2001 2010-03-28 20:35:24


My son is 8 and half year old. Right from beginning, he is doing bedwetting. We have tried different techniques to get rid of it, but of no use. Actually he gets very sound sleep and does not wake up easily. That may be one reason that he does not wake up when his bladder gets full and does bed wetting. How to get rid of this problem??

radansha 2010-03-28 20:49:56



my son has the same problem too!!.. he just turned 9 yrs before 4 months and touchwood, he is out of it now :-) on his own.. he sleeps very well, wouldnt get up in the middle for anything.. now a days he is having the sense i think and he gets up at 6 in the morning, goes by himself and gets back to bed.. he usually wakes up at 6.30 or 6.45am.

dont worry, it should be ok soon.. we consulted many doctors and they said just to leave it and NEVER TALK ABOUT IT before him.





smijacob 2010-03-29 11:37:08


Don't worry Rajeev..We were worried for our kid  who is 5 yrs and had a good discussion with doctor..His points were

- Don't shout at your kid..Just inform them that you didn't like his behaviour but you will surely support them to come out of this.This will give confidence to kids...Each kid is different and they take their own time to come out of this..Give them time and confidence..

- Don't allow to drink water  within 1 hr before sleep.Make it a routine to go to toliet before going to bed

- If possible , you get up inbetween the night and ask them to go to's difficult for us but once this is practiced ,your kid will also follow same pattern.

We tried this for 3 months and she is out of it now


RAJEEV2001 2010-03-29 12:57:22


Dear Radha,


Thanks a lot for your valuable info.




RAJEEV2001 2010-03-29 12:58:33


Thanks a lot for valuable info and support.



queen 2010-03-29 13:17:33


Hi all, fortunately ,there has been a great deal of research into bed wetting in recent years that has provided a basis for the devolopment of successful treatment.When dealing with bed wetting it is useful to consider a number of facts:

A child's bladder size  and bladder control affect bed wetting. The bladder is controlled by the brain. When a child's bladder is full during the night,a message either to hold on or that the bladder needs to be emptied is sent to the brain.Sometimes the brain doesn't react to the message that is sent to it, so the bladder empties itself.

By the age of 5 a child's bladder is usually large enough to hold a volume of urine throghout the night. If the bladder can hold 150 milliliteres of urine it is generally able to cope with the night's supply .

Many children have to learn how to remain dry during the night.


Bed wetting is a child's concern that is frequently shared by parents. Children sense parental concern ,which only compounds the problem.There are very few children over the age of 5 who enjoy the idea of wetting their beds. Self-esteem suffers, particularly as children become older.

The onus is on children to overcome the problem of bed wetting. They need to learn to control their bladders at night,just as they have learned this task during the day.

Limiting drinks before bed is ineffective,as often a child's bladder needs to be stretched to hold more urine.Many therapists encourage children to increase their consumption of fluids before bed so that the bladder size may be increased. 

The use of star charts,stickers and other reward systems are effective with younger children .


The age of the child needs to be considered when determining your approach to bed wetting. Some therapists suggest that parents should act if children still constantly wet the bed at the age of 5.Provide a child who wets the bed with a thorough knowledge about the bladder and brain and know their functions.When the child understands the physical processes involved, he is more likely to gain control of his bladder at night.Atrip to the library may provide the necessary information for you and your child.

A  child needs to be encouraged to overcome the problem.Adults can offer assistants,advice,encouragement and general support but the thrust of a successful program lies with the child taking control .There are two basic ways to assist children to take control of their wetness.One is interventionist and generally requires the use of equipment and assistance from an outside agent. The other method  places the emphasis firmly on the child,with a minimum of interference.

CHILD-CENTRED METHOD places greater responsibility on children themselves to overcome their bed wetting difficulties. It is appropriate if a child is older, reasonably confident and you are able to put up with wetting a little longer.Children gain a great deal in terms of self-esteem when they succeessfully tackle bed wetting themselves.

You need to discuss the issue frankly with your child,and explain the rules carefully.When children wet their bed they are to change their own bedclothes and bedding.If they require assistance they should ask for it.You should otherwise stay out of it.Minimal help should be given when requested.You should take little notice of bed-wetting and show faith in your child's ability to stay dry at night.There should be no need to  remind  children to go to the toilet before bed or restrict their intake of fluids.That is the responsibility of the child.By shifting the responsibility for mopping up entirely to the child,bed wetting is being treated like any other behaviour that needs to be changed or improved.

The sheer inconvenience of constantly changing bedding is often enough to bring about an improvement in wetting at night.It needs to be emphasised that improvement is usually gradual when this child-centred approach is used.  


lovely_1978 2010-03-31 01:09:28


thanx your input really helped


Maneks 2010-03-31 02:59:48


Thanks queen for  guiding us



RAJEEV2001 2010-03-31 09:26:10


thanks queen for detailed info.


Reemarangnath 2010-07-23 11:23:19


Hi my son is 7 years old and has the habbit of bedwetting. But he does so in winter and monsoon. I shall follow the tips given by all of u Thanks.



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