My son (3 years 10 months) just finished his first year of nursery at Kumarans. As everyother parent, we were delighted when he got through admission process last year. But looks like, I was in a shock. I am beginning to now question if Kumarans was the right school for my kid at all?
I am sure lot of you might be surprised with this, but let me share my experience. Recently they had year end PTM. My son's teacher expressed concern about writing ability of my kid. I would have been totally alright with constructive feedback, but it went beyond that and more felt like a threathing to me. While she emphasized that my sons writing ability was poor, she further went on to tell me that he will be put into state syllabus instead of the preferred board which was ICSE.
Now this leaves me concerned. Why are they so insistent on my kids writing ability at tender age of 3 years 10 months? I was all the while thinking pre-kg is more of fun for kids with ofcourse some learning in the class. And if I tie back things together, I realize that my son used to throw tantrums to go school when they were conducting the exams. Was he already stressed? ofcourse they dont send a circular for saying we are conducting exam on so and so date (which I appreciate), but once i saw the answer sheet file, i could make the above correlation.
Teacher went on to share and say how other kids are writing better compared to my son by totally being oblivious to the fact that they are mostly 7-8 months edler. Each kid has their own learning curve and pressurising them to write at young age is not right. Eventually this is no good for child's self-confidence either especially when ththis feedback is given right in front of him ( multiple times). Do teachers and management understand anything about child physcology at all?
While i understand this is not right , a subconcious part of me had already started to push my kid to practice writing every day... and i not okay with this feeling. Afterall every parent wants to see his kid happy and putting them under stress at this tender age is no good.
I am also not sure if this is the norm in every school today and if I need to change my prespective and do what is right. Or i may be over-reacting as a parent too
I am open to suggestions and would like to know if other parents had similar experiences before