How to tell parents about their kid's Autism symptoms

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punefather 2021-11-10 11:33:40


Hello there, hope the public here don't go crazy on my question.

A very close relative's son is unfortunately showing all the classical signs of Autism. He is a 3.5 years old adorable kid. Due to pandemic he hasn't been able to go to preschool or any daycare so far. So no chance for any school or daycare to observe him.

Following are the symptoms that I have observed so far:
1. Hand flapping - he does that frequently and especially when excited.
2. GI issues - he doesn't eat anything other than rice-dal. He has issues with texture of food and doesn't like to touch it - including chocolates, chips and all snacks.
3. He doesn't call his parents Ma or dadda. He knows a lot of words from books, TV, etc but does not have context to it. He doesn't call anyone for anything, like if he needs anything, he will take his mother to the object rather that asking for it.
4. He repeats the words a lot. Like, if we say "how are you" he will reply "how are you" every time and can do that all day. 
5. He doesn't play with any kids in parks, social gatherings, play-dates, etc. He only likes to jump and run when the other kid is doing same. He doesn't play with any toys that he has.
6. Obsession with alphabets. He is obsessed with alphabets. He reads them out whenever he sees, let it be on sign boards, paper, tv, etc. He carries his alphabet in pocket. He also ONLY watches alphabets songs on the iPad. No other cartoons.
7. He doesn't leave his mother even for a minute. He will follow her everywhere. Even going to a shower is a challenge as he follows and bangs on the door all the time.
8. He often has meltdowns and they are non controllable most of the times.
9. He runs and jumps on tip-toe.
10. He doesn't sit for potty training and runs away when forced to sit on the ring for potty training.

Things which are positive in my opinion are:
1. He has okayish eye contact. He looks in to the eye for a second when we call out his name. But not always. Sometimes he will not acknowledge.
2. He plays with his cousin a little bit. That cousin is same age and he only likes to play with him and he copies him.
3. He has no issue with loud music or other noises.
4. He is ok in crowd. He can attend functions without getting bothered.
5. He has no problem with traveling in a car.

I have prior exposure to Autism way back almost 12-14 years ago when I was volunteering for a NGO. Got to learn about it that time and then a friend of mine has autistic kid and so got to know from him about it. Also, had a colleague who's son was diagnosed with the same. I know it is one thing to know about it and totally another to identify if someone is autistic or not (that's the job of doctor/evaluator). But the signs are way too many to ignore is what I feel.

My intention is to make the parents go to a pediatrician and ask for evaluation. Because they can start early intervention. The whole point it is to help the kid by starting therapies and all the help that he can get.

However, I am totally clueless as to how to tell the parents. I haven't told this to anyone so far and can imagine how devastating it will be for the parents. But sooner or later they will have to evaluate and I feel it should be sooner to have a better fighting chance for the kid.

There is a slight chance that he may not be autistic, which would be good news but then evaluation is a must to be certain.

Did anyone go through such a thing? If yes, would like to get inputs as to how to take out the subject and get parents visit a pedestrian as soon as possible?


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