My son is in 4th std his behaviour is different from other boys of his same age. always he likes to watch tv. he failed his exams in 2 subjects and not showing interest in studies i think so. sometimes he sits till 12'0 clock night to complete his homework and sometime wont.. He will make lot of noise at home while playing and that makes disturbance to others. If we say not to do and beat him , he return beats me and his father also and shouts at us very loudly . we said him we will join him in hostel he is ready to join there also. i am scared to join him in hostel because he wont eat spicy and all vegetables also , he wont get up early and go to bed early. if we visit to relatives house he will search here and there and take out things and try remove the parts or to do some thing withthat. I am fed up with his behaviour and dont know what to do?????
Because of that not able to concentrate on job.
its quite serious and worrying.
first of all, stop beating/threatening your child. and please consult a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist ASAP.
really its serious,
can u suggest psychotherapist or a psychiatrist in hyderabad
sorry, dont know personally. please ask another parentree member mickey. she will know someone in hyderabad. send her a message.
I am new to this forum and trust me all the posts are so helpful. I really appreciate your efforts.
I have a 9 year old son. He is a balanced child but a lil restless. He has started scoring less in exams, though he worked hard, revised everything 2 to 3 times. Verbally he answers everything correct even when I give him test papers at home he does it almost 100% correct. My worry is, he score less in the examination. I am not able to make out as to what is not going right. He is very active in sports very social. Sometimes he does have his mood swings but over all a jolly boy.
I am really worried and don know what should I do. Kindly guide me.
Arti: this seems like performance anxiety. he is either not writing much in exams for the fear of being wrong (the written text is a proof of mistakes), or he is getting blank under the pressure of the word 'exams'.
have you tried talking to him about this? are you showing frustration after he gets his report card ("you do so well at home, what happnes in school?" etc)? have you been able to be that anchor, that he needs to sail through this problem or have you become yet another person to nag/complain?
how does he do when he has to perform on stage? how does he behave in birthday party games? how does he respond when guests/hosts ask him to sing/dance/recite something? how are other children of his class doing? do you feel that the teacher cuts lot of marks on small mistakes?
just few things i would like to know, to understand your child better.
Hi Aanchan, thank you so much for your reply.
1. I may be nagging at times, but .
2. His grades are fluctuating, in last exams he got 87 %.
3. One thing I can say that he needs attention, which he is not getting from the teacher.
4. His stage performance, I have seen in the apt only. In his school there they have no stage shows etc. for his class.
5. He is a balanced child, a lil naughty but a well behaved child, very helping and very caring also.
6. About the teacher and the marks I can't say much because we donor get to see the final papers.
Thanks Arti ( would like to meet you in person, with my son, is that posiple?)
when marks are fluctuating, it is more indicative of an internal turmoil, rather than a cognitive/learning deficit. however, many children with very mild learning deficits may perform well in those exams where the concepts are clear to them and not in other exams.
children should be naughty (they are children, not adults). there is a fine line between naughtiness and bad behavior. many times very well behaved children take out their suppressed feelings in academic performance. (not deliberately, though. it's an unconscious phenomenon)
yes, we can meet. but i would like to meet without the child in the first meeting. i prefer not to discuss about behavior and parenting issues in front of the child. i will send you the details.
thank you so much.
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