As parents we often have to calm a child who is either angry, distraught, crying or screaming. Here are some tips on how to calm a child down.
If your child is short, either kneel down or sit down next to them so you can make direct eye contact in a friendly way.
Put a hand on your child's shoulder and use the other to stroke their face gently or their chest or their arms in a manner that calms and comforts them.
Use a soothing tone and soothing words and and ask your child to calm down. You can say "I can't understand what you are saying when you are crying" or "I can understand you better if you speak slowly at a lower volume".
If possible, ask your child to go sit down with you in a quiet nook or corner. This can help them understand that you are paying attention to them. And don't forget to thank your child for stopping their crying or screaming.
Screaming or crying are ways for a child to get your attention. Once they stop screaming or crying, give your child what they really wanted. Put away your phone or book or paper and give your complete attention to the child.
Active listening is a technique to show the person talking that you have listened carefully to them. Very simply, you rephrase what you heard and repeat it to the child. So if your child says "I wanted to read the book but he grabbed it", you can say "Were you trying to read that book?".
By now your child would have calmed down and is ready to figure out the solution to their problem. Start discussion how to resolve the problem. Here are some ideas on what to do.
There are two things to remember when following the 7 steps on how to calm a child down.
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