why does my chid lie upside down on bed and sometimes enact masturbation

Jul 21, 2010 5:16 PM

hi

I am really worried as my six yr old son enacts masturbation while lying down .while some websites term this as normal others say that probably he is suffreing loneliness which cant be as i am stay at home mother and we give him love and attention that he needs Another angle is imitating elders as it cant happen as I dont have any whole timer maids or servants and dont have anyone at home.i do not leave him with anyone ..We are extremely careful in front of our child and I am 100% sure of not having caught aus. then why this happens. He is playful,jovial.The teacher loves him and he is active .Plays cricket and swims .p get back to me as soon as possible

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Jul 22, 2010 1:22 PM

hi...i have heard all these things before,but never observe it,i dont know...i think aanchal is right or maybe he is doing to seek ur attention.u have put up agood point..my son is 14....i will observe him. ayesha.

Chaplin (India)

Jul 21, 2010 8:16 PM

Hi
I think you should not worry too much about this and just ignore him than trying to stop him. Be careful of your non verbal messages(body language) too. Sometimes ignoring can lead to reduction of the behaviour whereas giving attention tends to increase it or push it underground. I think it will be a passing phase. Or maximum try to distract him calmly to other things.

Let us know what happens
Chaplin

aanchal (India)

Jul 21, 2010 6:28 PM

hi tanisha, a kid as young as couple of months old gets erection when someone touches him there, during bath, massage etc. its a pure physical phenomenon. the infant is not even aware that this is happening. when he grows up and becomes more aware of his body parts, he realizes that his penis gets erect when its touched. he starts enjoying it. kids at around 4-6 are very curious about sexuality. they want to know how girls are different from boys, why mumma has breasts while daddy doesnt, why mumma daddy sleep together, where do babies come from and so on.

exploring own body sensations is a part of developing sexuality. so your son trying to rub himself (i guess thats what u mean by enacting masturbation) is not abnormal or something to worry about. and since you said u have been extremely cautious about not exposing him to any overt sexual behavior, the bodily curiosity is purely internal and not influenced by an unwanted enperience.

a word of caution: i wouldnt be too sure of 'zero- exposure'...kids watch TV and movies where a lot of subtle and obvious contents are shown. my 2.9 year old wants to know "why does that uncle kiss that aunty on lips before falling in bed?"

just keep an eye on him..rubbing is alright unless it becomes an obsession, or is done in public, or the child wants to stay alone in room to do it. if there are mood changes, deterioration in learning skills along with it too, then it becomes a point of worry and u may need to consult a psychotherapist..take care!!

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