strict teachers and preschoolers - Page 1

hi,my daughter is scared of her teacher.she dont want to go to school.she hate this new school and the atmoshrere there.i talk to teacher just to make her comfortable and give her company of a kid.she gave her a company but really dont knw wether to trust on my kid or not she said teacher slap her.may b true after i talk without telling tht my daughter complain so.just ask to help her.if i will say tht teacher is strict she will b anoyed with her.but as we know in preschool all kids have to face this rude part of our society.how can i help my kid.please suggest me.i just want the proble to b solved without hurting teacher at the same time telling her to b polite .

Change the school. Irrespective of whether teacher is right or wrong, if your daughter does not like the school, you have to change it. Kids do not lie.

@shweta , which school is this?

whether the teacher does slap or not, thats not the point to begin with..the point is that there is something that your daughter is scared of..that could be real or imagined slapping, or something else(like a bullying child, a bad or embarrassing experience)..first thing, you shouldnt get anxious about the whole thing..your anxiety will make your child all the more anxious and scared about school..your anxiety will also make the teacher behave differently with you..second, talk to your daughter about her feelings, her observations, her actions and reactions at school..it is important to know whats bugging her..if you feel, the fear is unmanageable, change the school, but dont ever tell your child why you are doing so..you dont want to give her a tool that she can use later, everytime she doesnt like her school..cook up another reason and change it.

 generally preschoolers love goin to school unless you have something more intersting at home like late nights...creates morning blues / glued to t.v / new baby or guest /something fascinarting if nothing of that sort then it is serious issue at school ...maybe talk to the principal about it send some thank you note to teachers on how much u appreciate the little things teachrs do...and most importantly ..find out why?...make friends with parents ..

all the best....

dont keep changing schools as children do take time to adjust in new environments

Aanchal's said it all !

At this stage they are so little that everything around them is a mystery and is also intimidating....apart from you -Mom!! (to a major extent). Plus they are learning to express themselves.

I would suggest each day when you pick her up from school ask her how her day was. If you hear a similar story repeat go back that very moment and check politely with the teacher then itself if possible or the next day. Please let the teacher know that you just want to know if your child was ok in class and hope she was not mis-behaving or rough....but smiling and in a friendly manner. Also check with her, is your child easy to handle or does the child listen to her. This way you are assuring the teacher that you trust her and you will be able to get facts.Give both the benefit of doubt.

Also keep in mind if your child feels it (and she is just an ok -average child like other children in the class) then others feel it too. Sooner or later something will surface. Do not go the Principal yet (I would talk and see if other parents have had similar issues).

Hi,

My kid s facing the same problem as discussed here. I have changed her school as i required daycare facility apart from preschool( earlier she was gng to nearby playschool now i adopted for daycare as well).

 First 3 days she was ok and from 4th day onwards she dosen't wnt to go to school at all. She s now 2.9 months, i have put her n playschool from 1.8 months and she really loves gng to school, she wears the school t-shirt in home and doesn't want it to b removed.

After making her comfortable, convincing(that i am not gng to send her forcefully and i'l speak to her teacher and say not to scold her etc) and asking her few times she says teacher scolds her and pinched her..she s too small to tell wat really happened..but not willing to go to school at all.

I spoke to the incharge there and explained that my kid is too sensitive, as if we speak little louder also she considers it as scolding and asked them to pay special attention to her until she get acquainted to the new environment..i spoke to few other parents they are quite happy abt the school.

As each child is unique and dealt differently, the incharge is understanding and she said she will look into this matter and try to find out wat went wrong.

Hope the things will settle down.

Do i need to check something else also here..please help me..

Regards,

Preethi

If ur daughter is in pre-primary just change the school because the pre-primary years are the foundation for future.Otherwise it'll be emotionally hurting and the child will loose self-confidence. AND BELIEVE IN UR CHILD..

thanks everyone for replying.i trust my daughter thats why i was worried.she is just 4 of age and in j kg.more than her i cried that day when she told me. we talk to her she said this story again and again.so i asked the teacher that is scared to come to class without any complain but that day also her teacher say something to her or all the kids in class.next day when my daughter reached school principal was outside her office she tell maid to take my baby to class she cried and say teacher hit me i m not ready to go.then the principal followed the kid to the class i dont want to creat any drama so i leave the school.I hope this will change the teacher attitude.hoping every thing to go on positive side.

Hope for the best :)

yes the principal or the person in charge is definately a responsible person and would view things from a broader aspect....

all the best!!!

take care

geetanajali

ya ..even i think so there is something that your little girl is scared of....probably she is right. If talking to teacher doesn't helps then you need to figure out another way.