Hi All,
My daughter is 4 months old, I need to resume my job in coming 15 days time. I am really very confused that which will be the better option for my child Daycare or Babysitter.
Please guide me with daycare centre in or around sangavi or if you know any babysitter.
Thax
Hi Manik,
It is really a very difficult decision. Is it not possible for you to extend your maternity leave for another 6 months ? You need to be very careful while leaving a 4 month old baby with a baby sitter as well as a good day care. Baby sitters should be very well trained and reliable too. Usually day care is preferred if the baby is above 18 to 20 months. A child's immunity develops with mother's milk which u must be aware of. U may as well look for a good day care near your office and drop in between to give your child your feed. Many offices allow these days for new mothers. If you are engaging a baby sitter, see that your mom or mother -in-law or any of your close relative is always at home to keep a tab on the baby sitter for some days/months till u get gain confidence. If your office is near, drop in to give ur feed and also to keep an eye on her.
We keep hearing so many spine chilling incidents about baby sitters/Nanies these days. ......so please do a thorough background check before employing her.
I had a very horrible experience with a day care at Hyd when my daughter was just 5 months old. I had to leave her in a daycare as it was inevitable as i was doing a technical course and had to attend my classes for 2 hrs daily. Though i left her for two hours in the daycare , my daughter developed typhoid and dysentry within one and half months and was hospitalised. I don't say it happens to everybody. But u need to be very very careful. Inspite of taking all the care, she landed up in hospital at such a tender age. It was a real nightmare for me....
So I would recommend a trained baby sitter till your child turns one and half or two so that the immunity level in the child improves and the child is able to communicate something.
Cheers, Mickey
Hi Mickey,
Thanks for your reply.
I am still at a stage where I am not able to finalise whether I should join back to work or not.
But from your experience I have learnt that babysitter will be better than a daycare.
Thanks.
Manik
Please try to extend your maternity leave for two-three more month or you can opt for Loss of Pay too(if available). This is what i did in my case. I extended it by two months(LOP). I was also staying in Sangavi only but now shifted. We also searched a lot for good professional daycares there in Sangavi...but couldnt find any. Final we choose Pumpkin Patch and I am really satified with them. Initailly they give one-to-one attention to the child i.e. one maushi for one child (for all children below 1yr). now baby is 17 months old and she is comportable there. Go and see there facility too. Check it ....m sure u will like it. it is little bit costly but nothing is costlier then our baby's comfort. its hyginic.
One of my friend stays in sanghvi. She said that she liked a day care called "little hearts"
I am posting on this thread only to reinforce what Mickey has just said. A 4 month old baby is too little to tell you what is bothering her or if someone has been rough with her. I would suggest you wait a little till she is old enough.
Here in the US you are required to get back to work in less than 5-6 weeks of having a baby. I thought I would be fine with the daycares under laws and procedures that they are supposed to follow. Not true. There is a lot more to handling a baby beyond feeding, burping, sleeping and diaper change.
When my son was barely 5 months old I joined my old gym that I just loved. I could leave my son in the nursery no more than 90 mts. But my son at 5 months could not handle it. I used to leave him for barely 45mts. It was a busy nursery and the caregivers were very rough. There were some caregivers who would not want to pick him up or rock him when he cried. They would just put him in a baby swing and rock the swing really hard. My son was a very timid one. He could not handle that jolted push and to date hates any swing. I noticed it when I was in the nursery for a quick visit but let it die just to see if he would settle in a few weeks. He did not. One day on my way drive back from the gym he bawled like adults cry - the unhappy loud throat crying. It was then that I figured that this place was not right for him. I switched over to a different gym. I had to take baby steps to help him recover from the fears (from last place) and in two weeks he was fine. He just loooved the nursery there and just blossomed.
I am happy I opted to become a stay-at-home mom soon after my son picked up infection within a week of being born. He picked up the infection from my neighbor who had stopped by just for 10 mts to congratulate us. Trust me the first year is not easy. Your child will be picking up all sorts of infections even while not in daycare. She has her own little quirks that you as a mother can attend upon. You have to bide your time.
At 18 months I was sure I could hand over my little boy to someone because he could say what was wrong. But even then I have cold feet letting go of him. I am not an overprotective mother but a cautious one after seeing all that can go wrong while bringing up a baby.
On a comparative basis - daycares and better than babysitters. You at least can compare notes with other parents. Plus you know that nobody is handling your child in isolation, it is a common set of rules that apply to other children as well. (Remember : Your grouses will be common to those of others)
Very well said Roses.....your inputs will be useful for all working moms who are in a dilemma of daycares Vs baby sitters ???
Cheers, mickey
This is an extremely tough decision to make and it helps have a flexible job where you can extend your leaves and work from home .
I joined back when my baby was 7 months , but then opeted to work for home and go to office only two half days a week . And for me keeping a baby sitter / nanny was ruled out because neither my parents nor in-laws were staying with me . And you simply cannot leave a kid alone with a nanny at home - however good a lady you might find ! So I kept a baby sitter , who would be at home with me while I was working from home and when I went to office I sent my baby sitter along with my kid to a day care !!! So that way my baby got personal attention plus was safe with other kids . The day care was run by a lady from home who is a very affectionate lady so my kid is also happy there - he still goes there and he is 3 now . I stopped the baby sitter when he was 1.5
Adjusting to day care's depends on both the baby as well as the place , in the first months and years you need someone who will be a substitute for you and give affection to the kids .
You will need to take the choice based on all the opotions available - good luck !
Recently , Baby's day out day care / play group out opened in Pimple Saudaguer in Subhashree woods. It has good facilties for kids.
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