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Hi

My son is 5 year old. Last month there was an activity in his school.I made him prepare a story.He spoke very slow not loud enough.In every PTM his teacher tell me he is not expressive,speak slow.She said he remain in his reserve nature.He don't speak to his teacher.He has good knowledge & knows beyond his syllabus.But his teacher says exhibiting of  knowledge is also necessary.As a mother i accept his nature & don't have any complains.But how can i make him more expressive & communicative.

slow and soft- they are two different aspects of speech. slow refers to speed while soft refers to volume here. from your post i assume you are talking about soft speech (correct me if i am wrong here).

from your other posts, i have gathered that your child is cautious, observant and introvert, once outside home. his hesitation to open up to non-family members is very much there. he might have lot of ideas, but doesnt feel comfortable in sharing them freely.

you may want to work on his faith in the outside world before working on his expressive speech. he needs to feel reassured that people outside are basically nice, that they wont hurt, dismiss or ridicule him. sometimes as parents, we caution our kids too much about safety, manners, which leads to this sort of hesitation with outsiders.

work on his self-confidence generally. do not judge him , neither negatively nor positively (believe me, positive judgment is also bad). when he makes a drawing, explain what you see in the drawing with details, instead of calling him or his painting good. when he does a good thing dont call him a good boy. instead, say what he did what a good thing. same with bad thing. notice good things as much as you notice a bad thing. generally we tell our kids when they do a bad thing(like disturbing when on phone call), but fail to tell them when they  do a good thing(like not disturbing when on phone call).

also, you may use creative speech presentations at home to work on his self confidence as regards expressions. encourage him to give you mini-presentations on a given topic (bizarre ones like "what if there were chocolate rains") everyday. have others sit in when he is presenting. do not cut any idea. clap in the end. you may also have role-plays with him where you become an elephant and he is taking your interview.

have sent you a link through PT inbox. check it out

Hi Aanchal

Thanks for your reply.I was busy in family function so i couldn't respond.Actually you are right he speaks softly.I am facing two problems one is he write slowly & takes very less interest in writing.For writing there is lot of discussion in PT. That i can solve gradually.

Right now my main area of concern is his self confidence.Whenever there is an activity he don't like to prepare at home.He says i know i will tell in class.Honestly he speak in school but at home he tell me one or two words.I agree with you sometimes parents caution kids too much about good manners,safety.But his sensible & sincere nature is inborn.Because of this i used to call him good boy.Whenever there will be car on road he won't cross the road.Whenever there will be family function he won't run like other kids, sits properly with us.In the marriage if he goes,he won't go that far from our sight.He knows his boundary.Earlier i used to worry that why he don't run here & there like other kids.But now i accept my kid is sensible & introvert.Now i want to work on his introvert nature. I think if i'm not wrong all the sensible kids are introvert or all the introvert kids are sensible.

As he is of sensible & introvert nature i praise & encourage  him a lot.When he becomes naughty i get irritated easily because he has an image of good boy.I think these things are getting connected with his self confidence.I will apply your suggestions on self confidence.

In today times in schools children who are outgoing,outspoken remain in limelight.Sometimes this thing hurts me.But i'm confident my little star will also shine one day.

Hi Aanchal,

My kid also behaves same, I found my 4 years daughter is ver much similar to sachpreet's kid.

I am working on improving her confidence levels. Could you please send me the same link to my inbox also.

Thanks in advance.

-nani.

sachpreet and nani02..i am on leave for few days..will get back to you soon.

nani02: sent the link

my kid is same as sachpreet kid ...thanks aanchal ..i got the point u said about judgment ....i keep telling him is best all the time .  Please give me too how to boost confidence in child for public speaking ..thanks once again

Hi nani02 & rosinha

What do you really want for your children? by Wayne W. Dyer is good book for developing self confidence in children. If you want i can share contents of the book.

Hi Sachpreet . my kid is not confident to speak in front of everyone ..he speak slow & even take time to mix with frs . I feel he is introvert or lack confidence .

I will get the book u mention , thanks a lot