My son waste lots of time without realising it. His this habbit is annoying us espacially in the morning when he gets late for his school bus. He know how to watch the clock and what is the time but still he just ignore watching time while in bathroom or putting his school uniform.
We don't want to shout at him everytime. Can anyone suggest how to solve this problem.
I'm also having the same problem with my 11yr old son.
I also donno what to do...
Let's wait for someothers reply..........
A litlle bit of planning and following the same schedule consistently have worked for me. The previous night, we pack the bag and his homework briefcase, keep his uniform ironed and also I plan his snack the previous night itself. My 6 yr old takes a lot of time to drink milk and to eat his breakfast. So I have planned his schedule in such a way that he gets enough (longer) time for his breakfast. And I keep some buffer time too. He wakes up at 5.30 and he gets 1.5 hrs to get ready before his school bus arrives. So we don't normally have any morning rush except for the time when i wake up late. Try waking him up a little early (he has to go to bed early too) and give your full attention till he gets ready. Follow the same schedule everyday and be with him to help him get ready (by reminding him what he has to do next) atleast for 1 or 2 months. He wil get used to the schedule and sooner or later he will start to get ready by himself.
Please refer the following link too.
Thanks RoshMom for your reply.
Actually I also tried the samething 2-3 months ago. But the result was totally different he become fully depandant on me. He thinks that the packing the bag is his mom's responsibility.
Nowadays even though I tell him in evening or after finishing off his homework that he should pack his school bag according to next day schedule he did not do that and tell me that he has already done it. But in the morning before catching the bus he tells me mumma did you make my bag? And this question always surprise me. Sometimes I yell on him but now I have started checking his school bag after he tells me that he has packed his bag. But if for any reason i forget to check then I get the surprise question next day.
What to do?
I can suggest one thing. If he says he has packed the bag though he hasn't, why not allow him to face the consequences in school for a day or 2 for not taking the books. I think he will start realizing if he has to face the problem (assuming his school doesn't give any physical punishment).
I tried that also. For 2-3days he used to take his books becoz his teacher might have told him in the class. Then oneday in Parents Teacher meeting his class teacher complained about he is not brining books regulary and he is missing whatever has been given to noted down in text books. I told his teacher about his behaviour and asked for her help.
In front of us his teacher made him understand and instruct him to bring books. He said yes to his teacher but after come back to home he forgot all the things what his teacher told him. So after few days I had to nag him to prepare his bag.
I don't understand how come he be so ignorant? Why he forgets the things. Even though he never forget to watch his favourate cartoon. his play time. having dinner and sleep.
Pleae let me know Am I expecting too much from him?
thanks for sending me the link. It helped me a lot.
Now I have seen the improvement in my kid. It helped me to realised that discipline is very necassary and child need atleast 70 minutes to get ready.
I have made from last 2-3days a point that we both will sleep at sharp 10pm at night and it is helping me and my son to getup early 6:30a.m. he gets freshen up in just 7 minutes and go down to ride his scooter for 15 minutes and at 7am he comes up and brush his teeth and then eat his breakfast .
Thanks a lot.
Glad to know Rebecca :)
I had this problem with my younger son who is 7 now. I had to spend 15-20 mins every morning just to get him out of bed. After that he would get ready by himself.
I have set 3 alarms, waking up time, time to get out of the bathroom , time by which to be dressed.
For the past one month , he has been getting up on time, no tantrums :)
It was the kids suggestion actually. I just changed the alarm tone to a song they liked a lot. And surprisingly , it worked ! They wake up early in a good mood :), and the rest follows just fine !
Needless to say , I am in a better mood all day :)
Yhanks for the information and for the link. Now I had to try these on my child of 9 years old. now he is at my sisters place.
Also, How to make the kids realizing the fact that studies are not for parent's sake and they need to study for their own wellness. My kid has some difficulty in understanding and realizing such things. He thinks he need to study as we say him. I really dont know how to make him understand these. Expecting your reply eagerly.
What I learnt from my son is that We, parents should not expect them to learn to attain the goals we set for them. Allowing them to learn at their own pace, giving lots of praise for even small achievements, appreciating their effort irrespective of the result, doing activity based learning will always have a positive impact on them. They will automatically start showing interest to learn.
let him set his bag at night himself so that he gets into the habit, but have a quick recheck in the morning yourself and just add those things that he might left out .