I m so scared some day my MIL would come and stay with us . I get along well with her now, but i think thats cause of the distance. else she has a opinion on everything, parenting, whent he child should go to school etc etc.. she wudnt agree on my methods of parenting.. and wud keep on comparing me with other women who are working. I m a sahm, i used to work but i quit for kids.
NJ, seriously living nuclear family is best. my sis works full time, she sends her kid to school and from there my neice goes to womans house, who takes care of no more than 3 kids . she charges lilke 2000 or sth , she makes the child complete homework, and most imp, she cooks whatever my neice wants...
many ppl find out that some of their freinds wife who are sahm , can take care of ur child just like their own .. even if u pay more you know ur child wud be cared for.
MILs, they say so many things/ I once had gone to my freinds house. she alwas used to praise her MIL, saying oh I can work so easily. When i went there, her MIL said, we dont even talkw ith our DIL, she had to go to hospital for health reasons 9 times, we had to pay medical bills. I was so shocked to hear such things from her. I never told my freind abt it, if she wud know, I know she wud get depressed..
they force her to work.. they are fm a very rich family...see, the reality is NJ, if they take care of the kid, they act dominant in the house, control everything in the house, in short they want everythign their way.. which can be very hard...Also later on, behind our back, they wud say we are very incompetent mothers.. thats what that lady said to me, our DIL, is so lazy, she cant handle kids etc etc...
SO NJ, find a way to get peace of mind... Stay separate and be happy...
I was away with my husband for 5 years alone here in US. we bonded so well, got closer, chilled out with kids every day...and enjoyed like crazy... now that i m returning back to India, i m a lil worried if i hv to stay with in laws.. fortunately for me, my MIL is good person, just very dominating. and I m the sort of person who cannot take crap easily.
Anyone who feels that hubby changes color in front of their mother.. my hubby sure does..They team up together and i end up alone.