Imagine a situation, u are at home, u fight to be at home cause u feel it aint worthwhile. Then the nagging starts that you are doing nth all day.. u don't earn anything so asking for money would become even more painful from ur husband. Whatever he is giving, he wud give you even less and expect you to runt he house miraculously. can your eally manage the stress that would come with it?
Can you manage the nagging that comes with quitting ur job..? Believe me, I m a working mother of 3 kids and I 'hv to do all the house chores, each and every thing, including grocery, school books, fee deposit, their Parent teachers meetings etc etc all alone. My husband cribs endlessly that I m inefficient and I m good for nth.
But I know inside my heart that I do a lot for my family and I m in a position that God forbid if he leaves me I can raise all of them alone. I hv sworn, I would never ever stay at home the rest of my life. I do go crazy running for each and every house work alone but then GOd is watching me. And no action of mine would go unpaid. And for all those husbands who do not help their wives, again the almighty is watching them, expecting them to be more kind and patient to their wife. Your rewards are with your lord, ur kindness, ur cooking is not waste, ur efforts for the family wud help u raise a child who is sympathetic to ur need and in future of his/her family.
That being said, you need to make it very clear that you earn, u keep the money and run the house, what is left you would save in the name of ur son. Create a ppf account in ur name or ur sons name and make urself and ur husband as the nominee.
dressing up well is a part of ur identity. so do not sacrifice to that extent. Buy clothes, which are affordable and wearable on a day to day basis. I wudn't worry much abt ear rings, there are a lot of designer wear imitation jewellry in the markett hat you can wear and not be afraid of losing it.
My schedule has no time for tv - but really don't care abt idiot box anyway, some good quality time with kids when we are on our own, and a great friend circle back at office.
think wisely, fight for the right cause. do not threaten of quitting job and most importantly do not bring in laws names also in a fight, you would lose all battle. use ur words wisely.