is it ok? - Page 1

hi

          i am single owrking mom here...and my work starts in the early morning and i come quite late...after i come i have no one to help me and my kids take care of themselves and i have to do the entire household chores as no maid willbe coming at that time.

                looking at my plight my neighbour who also works as a warden of a girls hostel nearby sent a girl from the hostel int he evening once when i was quite sick tohelp me in the household work.....and then later my neighbour asked me to continue to utilise the girl for this work.

              i got confused at this setup as the girl is a student and she comes home for work after her study hour on the orders of the warden. later the girls mother came and requested me to use the girl and said she will receive whatever i give for her services.the mother is satisfied with what i offer for her services. the warden is also pressing me to use the girl as this is a source of income for her parent and the girl is also a not a good student. she is 15.and therfore i am safe by law.

           the issue is the girl is saying that she is not interested to wrok and want to be i n the hostel whereas the warden (for my good) and her mother are pressing me to put her to work. now her mother has told me if i am not interested to put her to wrok she will take her out of the hostel and give her for work elsewhere.

                  the girl is a good worker and i willbe a great loser if i loose her and just dont know.what o do .... my close friends are saying to be practical and use the girl as i am not going to save anyone but pyt myself in hardhship.

as of now i have not let the girl go and i am using her.....is it ok and a right decision?

Hi,

Ask her why she is not interested to work in your home. Explain her that even if she doesn't work here her mother will put her some other work. Probably like you she is also feeling tired.

Treat her as if she came to share your work, after returning home both of you together finish the household work. So that she will also have some time for rest.Talk with her (though u may not interested) about hostel etc. Bring her some bangles, hair pins etc. Just make her to feel like you are a friend to her. While doing the work also play some music.

After finishing the work, let her to watch TV sometime (Ofcourse if kids watches the TV only).  

If still she doesn't want to continue at your home, then convey same to her mother, to your neighbour and let her go. Don't hold her.